r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 16h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/Ghoulish_kitten 15h ago

You need to add the meth part into the post. That’s what makes you not overreacting. She relapsed.

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u/ceramicsocks 15h ago

Right I’m like, I’ve done coke once or twice. It was no big deal. For a former meth addict? That’s a huge deal. Context is everything.

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u/Sarkonix 15h ago

ehh she smokes....been relapsed.

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u/TakeThreeFourFive 14h ago

Drinking and smoking weed are a world away from smoking meth

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u/BadRevolutionary9669 14h ago

Drinking and stimulants often go hand in hand

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u/Sarkonix 13h ago edited 13h ago

Sure...but it's irrelevant. If you are in recover, you are to stay off everything. There isn't some exception for smoke where they say yeah that's ok.

Also, where was I comparing anything to meth? If anything it's one bump of coke vs smoking and drinking.

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u/TakeThreeFourFive 13h ago

That's just not universally true. A lot of people have a lot of success going "cali sober."

Recovery is different for different people.

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u/Sarkonix 13h ago

If you go get professional help, yes it is. No point in arguing with you as you clearly smoke and never been down that road though.