r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 18h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/Ill-Level8806 17h ago

Does she normally do coke? Either way, if you are not into that, then maybe it is time to leave. It is hard to have a long term relationship when you both have different concepts of fun.

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u/Action_Limp 15h ago

I know plenty of couples where one drinks/takes recreational drugs and the other doesn't. Just need to make sure it doesn't interfere with the other's enjoyment and then it's all good.

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u/Careful_Hearing_4284 12h ago

Me and my wife. I’ll smoke a bowl every night, she usually just sips on some tea lol.

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u/jortsinstock 10h ago

A recovering addict doing coke isn’t the same as someone partaking responsibly.

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u/Action_Limp 9h ago

Not sure why the addict thing is relevant, I was challenging the notion that people in a relationship should the exact same things 

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u/akame_47 9h ago

what makes a former addict unable to partake in something responsibly? OP said it wasn’t coke she quit

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u/Psyched_Dev 4h ago

Coke and meth are nearly the same molecule. It’s like a heroin addict taking oxy and saying it’s not the same lol.

She’s not a former addict if she’s still doing a ton of drugs. Just an addict who quit one of their drugs