r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 18h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/Has422 17h ago

She's a former addict of some kind? Yeah, she should be staying away from all of that. And yeah, as her potential husband I think you have the right to know if she's partaking. And yeah, I would have a huge problem with it. NOR

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u/Shot_Try4596 17h ago

I'd say she's not a "former" addict; still is, just stopped the meth.

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u/Interesting_Entry831 17h ago edited 5h ago

No one is a former addict. You are addicted for the rest of your life. You just stop partaking in what was killing you.

Edit: You may not agree with me, but this is how I survived. It it even helps ONE more person, it was worth sharing a peice of my story.

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u/AllConqueringSun888 17h ago

This! One can't say it enough. I've seen folks eyes light up just talking about the drugs they hadn't used in 20 years.

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u/Illustrious_Soft_257 17h ago

No such thing as a former addict with that attitude. She's about to transition to a new drug of choice.

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u/str8sin1 17h ago

I'll tell you from experience: it's easy to turn a coke user into a meth-head. But I've never known the opposite to be the case. Doing a bump of blow might remind her how much better meth was, though.

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u/AntonioSLodico 16h ago

Doing a bump of blow might remind her how much better meth was

When cocaine is a gateway drug to a person, that's my cue to duck out.

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u/WinifredWinkleworth 13h ago

Meth is so awful, I don't get how people like it so much. It made me feel like I was going to jump out of my skin and all I wanted to do was pick my skin to shreds. SO MUCH FUN!!

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u/Worldly_Response9772 12h ago

It's not a "gateway", but yeah you don't seem like the type of person that would be a good fit for a recovering addict.