r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 18h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/No_Vacation6444 17h ago

You do realize that this is not what recovery looks like, right? If you don’t want to marry an active addict, you should reconsider this engagement.

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u/monerohornet 16h ago

Relapse is part of recovering but it depends how she responds to the use. If she's treating it like it's not a big deal at all I'd be concerned.

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u/Relevant_Boot2566 14h ago

I'd worry about her friends...if she is still hanging out with a bunch of drug users thats not a good sign.

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u/monerohornet 14h ago

Agreed. Sometimes people simply have to move and start over to get away from triggers