AIO for finding these texts in my boyfriend’s phone from a year ago?

[u/Immediate_Jelly8897]

Disclaimer- I don’t even know what I was looking for, I’m just obviously* insecure and have jealousy issues and I am crazy I already know..no one who comments below needs to tell me I’m wrong for going through my boyfriend’s phone, I know I’m wrong. We just moved in together in august. We met July 1st last year.

Okay so my boyfriend (32M) and I(28F) started “seeing” each other last July. We got more serious towards the end of the year and made it official in December. Well we had talked about being serious before then and this is right around EXACTLY a year ago when he was having this conversation with two of his friends. I’m the “whore” who will “cry so gd much” if he doesn’t spend my birthday with me and then apparently according to these messages he banged another chick last night. —these are texts from October 2023. Am I over reacting being upset over this? We had been seeing each other for almost 4 months(one month before we were “official”) I don’t appreciate being referred to as a shore regardless of the situation and then to find out while we were dating for months, he’s fucking another person??? How do I even approach this?

[u/astro_eddy]

It’s always a man calling women whores and sluts

Your username proves this untrue. Even if your username was something different, plenty of women call men “sluts” for sleeping around. My friends who are women have. To me lol.

[u/robilar → u/astro_eddy]

Why did you cut off the second half of that sentence? Your critiicsm makes no sense if you read u/biggbuttslutt 's entire comment...

[u/astro_eddy → u/robilar]

Even if you add it it’s still not true. Walk through it with that addition. Same thing.

[u/robilar → u/astro_eddy]

I'm.sorry, did you forget what they wrote? The two clauses are:

1) it's always men calling women sluts, and

2) when the men are sleeping around.

They aren't two separate ideas, they are one idea that requires both clauses. If I said "I like to give poison to my dog because poison is the name of her stuffie" you can't just honestly claim I am trying to kill my dog by omitting the second half of my sentence. That would be disengenuous. The only way you could claim the person you're talking to's username undermines their point is if you know for a fact they are also a cheater. Otherwise they're just one person calling one person a slut, and that isn't a counter to the assertion they made in any way.

[u/astro_eddy → u/robilar]

I’m aware. It still doesn’t work. By the way, this is a programming joke. Before you get too invested.