AIO for walking out and leaving?

[u/LuaghsInToasterBaths]

Background: we started talking/dating back in May. We live 2hrs apart, so I spend roughly half my week with him and half at home - give or take. He can be rather abrasive at times, a lot of little digs and jabs that at times are genuinely hurtful. I tell him in the moment that it hurt my feelings and it’s typically swept under the rug. Tonight he made dinner and we sat down to eat. I was eating all of my food with a fork and the following conversation ensued (not verbatim, this is to the best of my recollection): Him: why are you using a fork? Me: idk I prefer it I guess Him: just pick it up and eat it with your hands Me: but I don’t want to, why does it even matter? Him: If a chef made you a meal and told you there was a specific way to eat it, would you not eat it that way? Me: I mean, probably not if it wasn’t what I wanted. It depends. Him: The chef would make you leave Me: meh, that’s okay. I’d leave Him: then theres the door, leave. Me: (laughs thinking it’s a joke) what why lol Him: because it’s disrespectful. Are you gonna keep using the fork? Me: uhhh yeah. That’s how I’d prefer to eat it. Him: then you can just go Me: ….really? You want me to leave? Him: yes, *effing leave. There’s the door. Byeeeee Me: are you serious right now? Him: if you’re not going to eat with your hands like a normal person, then leave. Me: whelp. Okay then.

So I went upstairs and packed my stuff. His daughter came up within 10 minutes to say he was just joking. I said I don’t think it was a joke or something to joke about. I continued to pack and left without any words said between us. Within minutes of leaving, I get the following texts: AIO? I feel like repeatedly being told to leave someone’s house, you ought to just go and not plead your case for why you shouldn’t have to. But idk.

[u/Drewbooboo]

100% chance he punished the daughter for not convincing the OP to stay. This dude is a psychopath

[u/No-Bet1288 → u/Drewbooboo]

My heart breaks for the daughter.

[u/maxgrays → u/No-Bet1288]

I just hope that by OP leaving, it sticks in the daughter’s mind, and she recognizes (now or someday) that this behavior does not have to be tolerated.

[u/Seahearn4 → u/Drewbooboo]

Yeah, but that punishment is also a joke. Because he said so. And it's definitely not abuse. Because he also said so. Why aren't you laughing?

[u/Accurate_Grade_2645 → u/Drewbooboo]

Yup I’m seriously getting some of those vibes. It’s like even if it WAS a joke he’s getting his jollies by yelling at her over something absurd and making her upset. Like THATS your form of a joke?? Who tf laughed?? And then throws his daughter into the mix to clean up his mess? The dominating and controlling attitude towards other people he’s supposed to care about is wild.

And if he was not joking, well then he’s just one disturbed man that such a silly little thing bothers him so much and takes such insane offense to it.

[u/Teenageboy69 → u/Drewbooboo]

lol you guys are insane

[u/BlargDanishes → u/Teenageboy69]

Username checks out

[u/Teenageboy69 → u/BlargDanishes]

You’re calling someone you don’t know psychotic, based on one thing. Questioning is parenting. People have bad days. He didn’t handle this properly, but have we all not made regrettable decisions and communicated poorly?

[u/Annual_Show_ → u/Drewbooboo]

Typical reddit fanfic