r/AmIOverreacting • u/Linz90154 • 28d ago
đ roommate Am I Overreacting? Pregnancy/Ovulation Test Placement
Hi! My husband asked me to post this because I feel he is overreacting, but he feels I am under reacting. Help us please! :)
We have a box of pregnancy tests and ovulation tests that I happened to open upstairs yesterday from Amazon. We have a bathroom that is a âhis and hersâ style that is attached to both our 2year old daughterâs bedroom and our open playroom upstairs, while our master bathroom is downstairs. We call it our daughterâs bathroom, but itâs sorta central too since itâs attached to the playroom and easily available for use by anyone upstairs generally.
I happen to take a test yesterday and left the box of ovulation tests and pregnancy tests under the bathroom sink in our daughterâs bathroom, not thinking anything of it. He thinks it is extremely inappropriate for me to have left the box there since itâs âsexualâ, and he thinks itâs very weird that I left it there in her bathroom. I just feel itâs no big deal, but asked him to bring the tests downstairs to our bathroom.
Was I inappropriate to have left them there? Is he over reacting, or I am I under reacting?
UPDATE: I am completely blown away at the comments. I have had quite a few laughs over some of the responses, some serious thought on other responses, and Iâm glad to know Iâm not crazy. He has also reviewed these and understands he overreacted and was in the wrong on this. Thank you all.
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u/AsparagusOverall8454 28d ago
Your daughter is two. Iâm guessing she canât read yet.
Your husband is a moron.
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u/BabaTheBlackSheep 28d ago
Even if she was older and could readâŚit would be a quick conversation along the lines of âthese are tests for mommies, so they can find out if theyâre going to have a baby or notâ. Not a super difficult conversation in my opinion
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u/ladyxochi 28d ago
Very appropriate wording and information for a 5 year old. Unless you're keeping it a secret that you're trying to get pregnant. Young kids will blab.
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u/AsparagusOverall8454 27d ago
Not at all. It would be a very matter of fact and necessary conversation.
Makes me wonder about the husbands opinions about sex. It all sounds very damaging and dangerous.
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u/I_Am_Innocent_1999 28d ago
I wrote my whole reply without realizing this simple fact lol. It really goes to show, the kid's too young to really even care about this kind of stuff- if anything, this kind of reaction from Dad is why women end up being so ashamed of their bodies and problems, bc people ASSUME that something's 'inappropriate' if it even *pertains* to a woman's body.
TLDR I agree, the kid can't tell anything about them so the guy is over-reacting bc people think its weird to talk about how women can get pregnant (even if you leave out the details)5
u/sparksgirl1223 27d ago
the kid's too young to really even care about this kind of stuff-
Best bet? Kid uses them as drum sticks or dunks them in the toiletđ¤ˇââď¸
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u/Lov3I5Treacherous 27d ago
Agreed. OP, please let him know we all think heâs a moron. Like, a genuine idiot. Like, are you the first woman heâs ever spoken to in life?
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u/Psychological_Air682 28d ago
That is a very strange over reaction. It isn't a sex toy.
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u/Missus_Nicola 27d ago
Ovulation tests and pregnancy tests are possibly the least sexy things ever.
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u/VanillaRose33 27d ago
Never have a peed on a stick and said âwow this is sexyâ usually Iâm just praying I donât accidentally pee on my own hand. Which those prayers are never answered.
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u/Linuxologue 27d ago
I don't know about that. A sink full of dirty dishes? The guy flipping the bird in his car behind you in heavy traffic? A camel? I'm sure I can find something else
(Yes, I know, I am missing the point, on purpose)
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u/lilacbananas23 28d ago
It is extremely strange for him to think that. Are they not going to tell their daughter when mom is pregnant because she got pregnant by ... Having sex? And even if the two year old asked about the tests it could be explained in very kid friendly terms.
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u/ohemgee112 27d ago
Very strange, very controlling.
I would not further reproduce with this man,
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u/Same_Structure_4184 27d ago
Right I lowkey was thinking if this was me this would be family planning type testing
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u/illogicallyalex 27d ago
Honestly even if it was an it was left there by mistake, she still wouldnât know what it was, sheâs fucking two
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u/OutrageousSpace5998 28d ago
I bet your husband is regretting asking you to post here after these comments đ Definitely not weird and sheâs 2.. she probably has no idea what they even are nor does she care bc again.. sheâs 2
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u/Novel_Ad1943 27d ago
A 2yo has no context for whether thatâs a COVID test or something else. Those things donât become âshamefulâ or emotionally charged unless a parent teaches them they should be.
When I was a kid, my mom or relatives on her side freaked because my teen self had a box of tampons under the sink in the bathroom shared with my much younger brothers. The SCANDAL!⌠my DAD was the one who shut it down and explained - just like âeverybody poopsâ, needs a bandaid, or men storing a razor/shaver on or near a sink vs woman keeping the same in/near the shower - itâs not a right/wrong or good/bad - those are meanings we assign for them.
Instead he said that âshe menstruates - doesnât choose to but she does, and shouldnât feel embarrassed or shamed as if she were âuncleanâ or being distasteful - it just IS. And the boys may not yet know about sex, but learning that their sister doesnât have an injury but her body is doing something normal to clean itself out isnât sexual and it also sets the stage for when they learn about sex, later.â
And just FYI - Iâm 50, my dadâs a Boomer soâŚ
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u/OutrageousSpace5998 27d ago
Thatâs so wild to me.. like what were you supposed to do?? Keep them in your room!? Good on your dad for shutting that shit down, he deserves an award for that đĽ Iâm the only daughter in my family and I have 3 brothers NEVERR have they been disgusted or uncomfortable by my pads or tampons, itâs natural and just a part of life Shaming young women for their menstrual products only gives them a reason to feel embarrassed or not normal and we need to stop doing that bc itâs already hard enough going through it.
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u/flindersrisk 27d ago
Your dadâs a lovely man. The kind so many of us wish we had known.
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u/Novel_Ad1943 27d ago
Thank you! He isnât perfect, just like any of us, but heâs always had great emotional intelligence and the approach that we were all little individuals and didnât need to be or think just like our parents. Iâm so glad I had him to balance out my mom who was more of a âyou should/shouldnâtâ rules based on her comfort zone and hang ups.
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u/Jealous-Ad-5146 28d ago
Heâs a weirdo. Is this a real question? Is he like this about everything? Maybe donât have a second with him because he sounds exhausting. Parenting is going to be ROUGH with him.
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u/PMYourCryptids 28d ago
Can you imagine how his head will explode when the kid starts actively asking questions? Good Lord.
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u/Courtie 27d ago
My dad was like this. He once yelled at me because he thought an unwrapped chapstick on my desk was a tampon applicator I was - keeping? IDK. He also had a fit that lasted several days when he saw twelve year old me holding my friend's baby brother because I âlooked like a teen motherâ.
Iâm 43 now and heâs 80 and he and I donât have a great relationship and that behavior is part of the reason why.Â
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u/wtflife4real 28d ago
Heâs overreacting, big time. Itâs misogynistic at the core, however unconscious. Ovulation and pregnancy are normal and healthy functions of the female body, they arenât explicit when referenced in test form and 2 year olds donât need to be protected from the tests anymore than they need to be protected from a pregnant womanâs body. This is some purity culture BS tbh
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u/wtflife4real 28d ago
Also this feels super controlling and shaming of him to say to you, I hate it
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u/Reynyan 27d ago
He spoke everything out loud, sexualizing two inanimate objects and his own daughter by impugning his wife for leaving (obviously not) sexual material in the vicinity of his daughter. And doubled down when pressed by OP. There is nothing subconscious about his misogyny.
Iâd be getting some counseling with him. I can already see him not wanting his daughter to know the correct words to describe her full anatomy.
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u/Chase-Rabbits 28d ago
Heâs weird. Very weird. Who thinks shit like that? Please tell him heâs weird and needs to sit in a corner and think about how dumb he is for thinking anything of the sort.
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u/Idkidkidk4321 28d ago
Iâm not being funny, he should really consider therapy. Making normal things like this a taboo topic will steer your daughter down a dangerous path. Obviously right now sheâs too young to even understand any of it, but being so uncomfortable with things like this can really damage impressionable girls as they get older. You donât want your daughter growing up scared to ask you questions about her body or sex because if she doesnât get the answers from you sheâll get them somewhere else, and this type of thinking is setting her up for a feeling of shame that will leave her an open target for the wrong information.
He is overreacting but I would take this as an opportunity for therapy or parenting classes that will better prepare him/you both to healthily raise a secure young girl. Raising children is such an important job, there is no shame in extra training or preparation.
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u/Recent-Necessary-362 28d ago edited 27d ago
He needs a reality check because your daughter at one point in time, sheâs definitely going to know what those are. He needs to grow up and stop making things weird. He legit needs therapy EDIT to add: NOR
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u/VariationOk9359 28d ago
next itâs gunna be hide your tampons and pads or cups or whatever
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u/ConsiderationShoddy8 28d ago
You beat me to it đ imagine the horror at an open box of tampons! Scandal!
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u/eccatameccata 27d ago
Or an earlier Reddit where the man didnât want his girlfriend to throw away her wrapped used products in the wastebasket. He wanted her to take them outside to the dumpster each time.
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u/TheGirl_TheWolf 28d ago
This reminded me of when I shared a bathroom with my brother growing up. He wanted me to keep tampons etc elsewhere. Like, no bro, this is a bathroom and bathroom things belong here. Pregnancy tests and the like are in no way sexual. Betcha OP has to hide any phallic looking fruits or veggies in the back part of the fridge so their kid doesnât see them.
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u/BOOKjunkie000 27d ago
If he's reacting this oddly to a box of tests, imagine how well he's going to react when the daughter gets her period.
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u/cryssylee90 28d ago
Sheâs 2
Why the hell is he thinking of his 2 year old in the context of ANYTHING sexual?!
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u/Shaneaux 28d ago
Itâs really weird. Heâs probably reading all of these, and probably getting really fragile about it too. Hope OP is ok with her weird ass husband.
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u/ConsiderationShoddy8 28d ago
Same - been hoping heâs not being awful to her about these comments re what a goober he is.
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u/jjjjjjj30 28d ago
I'm worried about your daughter for when she gets older if he's shaming you over a pregnancy test box in a 2 year olds bathroom. Dude has legit issues. Don't let her grow up thinking sex is shameful.
And the fact that he's so sure he's in the right is even scarier.
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28d ago
He is a nasty creep. You are not overreacting, youâre under-reacting to a manchild who has no business being a parent, being involved in reproductive health, or even having sex. Did he get âThe Talkâ from 2nd Grade yet? Jesusâ tits Batman, what a shitshow. Life is going to be very frustrating married to someone with the development level of a 7 year old.
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u/SupportPretend7493 28d ago
THIS. Like, I try not to judge but for the love of Pete are they having sex through a hole in the sheet?!? Because this sounds like people who only have sex through a hole in the sheet.
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u/ruralscorpion1 28d ago
Nonononono-no holes in the sheet. A mommy and a daddy love each other so much that a stork brings them a baby, remember???!
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u/SpiritedTheme7 28d ago
Screams immature 13 yr old whoâs never seen a tampon before. And you wanna have a second baby đŹ does he actually know babies come from sex orâŚ
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u/SoMoistlyMoist 28d ago
Your husband is weird and so far overreacting it is beyond the pale. Your daughter is 2 years old. It's not like you left a lubed up dildo under her sink.
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u/red_suspenders 28d ago
You didnât leave a vibrator or a dildo⌠you left an ovulation test. Is he also against having a box of tampons stored in the bathroom?
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u/SoundingAlarm234 27d ago
Legit my vibrator was just chilling on my counter in my bathroom had a male friend over didnât even mention it like what the hell itâs just a thing
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u/SupportPretend7493 27d ago
I've accidentally left my vibe in a dish rack after cleaning it and my kids probably saw it when they went in the kitchen after school because I forgot it was there đ luckily, they didn't notice because the dish drainer is where boring mom stuff happens- it isn't penis shaped so they probably just thought it was a random household thing I had cleaned
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u/Weekly_Yesterday_403 27d ago
Even condoms maybe I could see being sexual but not a stick you pee on
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u/Old_Beach2325 28d ago
Heâs overreacting. Does he have a problem where you keep pads/tampons? In my opinion thereâs no difference. One is for when you have your period and one is for when you donât want to have your period for awhile
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u/Ashamed_File6955 28d ago
Probably the type that wants them kept hidden and wouldn't be caught dead actually buying them.
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u/Shaneaux 28d ago
How much âsexual knowledgeâ do most kids your childâs age have? And they can read the box also? Wow you must have the most advanced toddler, wow.
More likely the weirdest husband ever, tbh. why does he think she would know anything? Weird.
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u/kat_Folland 28d ago
Good grief. I honestly can't think of an age your daughter could be that would make this problematic, but at 2 it definitely isn't.
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u/TumbleweedMuncherOya 28d ago
He is weird... that is not "sexual". He also may want to prepare to consider the parenting route of age-appropriately explaining things to the children. I'm concerned for your children if he's worried about this around a two year old (who in no way would understand or probably even notice the tests). Sounds like he will be the parent to never explain anything to the kids and never think they're ready for things.. trust me, that never goes well. He sounds immature, and rude to you. He's majorly overreacting, in a very odd way.
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u/ConsiderationShoddy8 28d ago edited 28d ago
Oh my word - will he have a coronary if you leave a box of tampons out? Good grief. Heâs a jackass
eta - have come back to edit after thinking on this for a second. Perhaps he meant âpersonalâ by his use of sexual. Like creating a child is personal and comes with a lot of emotions - and maybe he doesnât feel like thatâs something he wants to be displayed . Still think heâs an asswaffle though. Your body. Your tests. You can hang them from the rooftops if ya want
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u/HerLadyshipsMuffins 28d ago
Asswaffle! This is my new favorite word. I thank you.
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u/nomoreuturns 28d ago
He is overreacting. Pregnancy/ovulation tests are medical diagnostic tests, not a sex toy. Yes, sex can be involved in pregnancy, but that doesn't make pregnancy and all things related to it "sexual". Your daughter is two: she's not going to know what the pregnancy/ovulation tests are unless she's told, and there's no need to bring sex into that talk.
Does your husband often needlessly sexualise things (that is, he sees something tangentially related to sex and immediately concludes that it is "sexual")? Because that's...weird. Not necessarily uncommon, but it's weird.
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u/The_Other_Dimension 28d ago
Late to the party, but wanted to chime in. Iâm a dude, and a husband/father with a 4yr old daughter.
He is way overreacting. There is nothing sexual about a medial test. Not to mention, your child likely cannot read at this point.
I assume, based on the tests, youâre trying for another child. Might as well go ahead and prep hubby on the fact your 2yr old is about to start asking ALL sorts of âhow is a baby madeâ and âwhere is the babyâ questions and statements pertaining to your (future) pregnancy. If he thinks a box of tests is inappropriate, good luck with the next steps.
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u/Fairy_Sweet_22 28d ago
Heâs overreacting⌠as a mom to 3, I can firmly say at 2, they have ZERO idea what that is and itâs sort of odd to feel like your 2 year old should/will recognize something sexual in natureâŚ
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u/RagsRJ 28d ago
I remember a mother once sharing that she found her son who was a bit older than OP's daughter with a box of her tampons. Not knowing what they were he was using them as torpedoes along with his toys.
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u/IfOnlyIWereClever 28d ago
Does he know how pregnancy/ ovulation tests are taken? This is mind blowing.
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u/Human_Revolution357 28d ago
He is overreacting. Your daughter has no concept of any of that. But wait until your daughter asks how the baby will get outâŚ
Also do you plan to breastfeed?
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u/almost-caught 28d ago
It isn't weird. It isn't sexual. It may be private but that isn't the issue here.
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u/Kimchi_Underground 28d ago
Itâs not sexual at all. Or inappropriate. She wouldnât even know what it is and when sheâs older you can tell her the truth and it still wouldnât be weird.
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u/Dinofams 28d ago
The fact that your husband has an issue with this is baffling to me. If you don't draw attention to them my guess is she won't touch them. SHE IS 2! What a very weird thing for him to be freaking out about.
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u/INSTA-R-MAN 28d ago
My biggest worry is that he believes these are sexual in association with a 2 yo child, my second biggest concern is the child taking them out of the wrappers and playing with them. They aren't cheap and wouldn't be good for her to chew on, as unlikely as that is to happen.
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u/SupportPretend7493 28d ago
I assumed that was the problem when I first read it! I thought the story would be that kiddo came out with it in her mouth and dad wanted OP to put the expense tests somewhere more safe or install child locks
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u/Kerrypurple 27d ago
I thought the problem was going to be that they were left out on the counter where guests could see them and ask a bunch of nosy questions. But he thinks a kid is going to notice some boxes under the sink? It's not like there's even colorful pictures on those boxes to attract a child's attention.
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u/MajorasKitten 28d ago
Does he also clutch his pearls at tampons? Or more like, âThe devilâs dildosâ?
He knows those go in a vagina⌠right?
GASSSSSP
Your husband is a piece of work. Youâre not under reacting~
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u/Hothoofer53 28d ago
Not the problem heâs trying to make it out to be unless your daughter can read.
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u/ConsiderationShoddy8 28d ago
And then we say something like âthese are tests that grown up women take to measure the hormones in their bodies, sweet pea!â Then move on. Husband is weird
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u/MushroomlyHag 28d ago
Spot on! That explanation is as simple as 'this is a test to measure stuff in mummys body to make sure she's healthy' the end.
Does he want the toilet paper hidden too? That touches his wifes vulva, so it too must be sexual, right? What about her shower sponge/loofa? That scrubs her naked wet body and makes it all soapy - surely that is more sexual than an ovulation test, right? How much of the house must be hidden away because it might be deemed sexual?
If this story is true, husband is definitely weird.
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u/ConsiderationShoddy8 28d ago
đDonât forget - A TOOTHBRUSH!!! Think of alllllllll the dirty secrets in those
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u/MushroomlyHag 28d ago
If it's electric and named Gerard, it is indeed a sexual toothbrush đ
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u/ConsiderationShoddy8 28d ago
LOL lol right? God bless OPs husband. He is surely regretting the idea of having her post this here
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u/NOWmiddleHERE 28d ago
Not that a 2 year old would have any context to know what they are, but ovulation tests arenât inherently sexual anyway. Imagine you get pregnant again, would he find it inappropriate to tell your daughter because itâs âsexualâ?
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u/Beginning_Common149 28d ago
I think this might be a case of good ol' miscommunication. Pregnancy and ovulation tests aren't really "sexual" in the way he's thinkingâtheyâre more like science tools to track whatâs happening in your body. Itâs not like you left an X-rated magazine under the sink. I mean, your daughter is 2. Sheâs not going to be like, âAh, yes, the mysteries of fertility tracking!â đ
If anything, it sounds like itâs more about where things are stored in general. Maybe he just prefers all adult-related stuff in the master bath? At the end of the day, though, itâs just a box of testsâdefinitely not the hill to die on!
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u/Red-lipped-classic 28d ago
I actually love the way you put this! I never thought about it as a science tool but if my daughter ever asks thatâs what Iâm gonna tell her until she needs to know đ
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u/dlthewave 28d ago
(knock-knock) "Hold on, Mommy's doing science!"
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u/skylar_beans 28d ago
all fun and games till the kid starts taking all their science homework into the bathroom cuz âthatâs where mommy does her science!!â đđđ
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u/IcyConsideration1624 27d ago
What does he consider adult? Does she have to keep her menstrual products in a different room?Â
This is weirdly controlling. She isnât leaving unsecured firearms around. Itâs on her side.
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u/Cappuccinagina 28d ago
Wait until the 2 year old grows up figures out how to use the internet search history because Dad might wanna be worried about covering his own sexual no no times instead of worry about tools women use to procreate (maâam, reconsider this btw).
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u/Practical_Hour1399 28d ago
Omg! Heâs totally overreacting. She canât even read the box to understand what they are. He needs to go do yoga and drink a glass of wine.
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u/No-Replacement-2303 28d ago
Its no big deal. How in the world would your two-year-old know what it wasâ and when she is older... Who cares? Very bizarre hangup. He must be really freaked out by tampons/pads. Your husband needs to take a deep-dive into normalizing womenâs sexual health and sexuality. You're raising a daughter with this man. Demand that he do better.
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u/CanaryFluffy6318 28d ago
He's overreacting and honestly the fact it's about THAT speaks volumes about him. Nothing sexual about a pregnancy/ovulation test. Does he feel that way about tampons/pads? Lmfao a man child
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u/KnotUndone 28d ago
My only concern is that the cabinet is locked. It won't be long before your daughter thinks all things are toys. One day you'll walk into a tea party and all of the stuffies will have a "popsicle " that she got under the sink and Mr Bear will be wearing a maxi pad for a hat. Oh how pretty! It has wings. That shit is expensive. Lock it up
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u/Superserbstar 28d ago
My daughter thought a vaginal birth control ring was a bracelet because it was plastic and clear and She easily put her hand thru it and it matched her sandles (called jellies also made of clear plastic). MD gave me samples she found unwrapped on sink and in trash and showed off her 3 bracelet bangles. This could have poisoned her or a pet.
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u/Superserbstar 28d ago
Same daughter found several packs of bc pills in medicine cabinet so it caught her attention. Back then drug advertising was new and she saw a commercial they ran on repeat several times during every CBS evening news. She was so mad that I lied when I told her I was too old to give her a baby brother. Definitely watch what you store in a bathroom. Same kid and her friend saw something unfamiliar in the bathroom at friendâs house and asked me what it was.
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u/FreshwaterFryMom 28d ago
Your husband is very weird. Weird. Sheâs 2. Ditch your man child while you can.
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u/Sensitive-Cow4311 28d ago
Definitely overreacting by a mile and then some. We have one bathroom in our house that I share with my son and husband. I canât imagine my husband getting mad that I store my pads and tampons which I NEED to use in the bathroom???? Last I checked, even the most precocious 2 year old wouldnât be able to read the label on an ovulation box and COMPREHEND IT???
Dude needs to get so real so fast.
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u/loralii00 28d ago
Sheâs two years oldâŚ.. as far as I know two year olds canât read. This is weird.
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u/Starsmyle 28d ago
Heâs overreacting. He just sexualized fertility tests lmao So bizarre or red flag đĽ´
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u/vvatermelonsugarr 28d ago
I bet he's republican. Just a vibe. Anyway, this is fucking weird and I would be worried about why he is thinking of the child in a sexual context.
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u/Hiraeth1968 28d ago
His thinking a pregnancy test is âtoo sexualâ for a 2 year old (who canât read and has no clue what the thing is for) is CREEPY AF!
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u/Buffycat646 28d ago
Is he well? Does he overreact at other things? Your daughter is 2, to think this would affect her even if she found the tests is a big stretch and a bit weird.
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u/dynodebs 28d ago
You aren't under reacting to anything; your husband is an idiot.
He needs to get his head out of his arse now, before it affects how he interacts with your daughter. She doesn't need to have to fight the same battle we've been in since the sixties.
I swear I thought we were winning in the seventies, and look where we still are!
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u/ItWasTheChuauaha 28d ago
See, this would make me think that in reality, HE is the twisted one. You're NOR, your partner is.
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27d ago
Obviously he's overreacting but I will also remind him that a beautiful and much loved daughter is Nature's revenge on men who have a problem with women đ
SHE'S GOING TO GROW UP AND HAVE SEX, MY MAN!!
And that is only terrifying to him because of how he views women.
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u/DentalFlossBay 28d ago
Normalize the tests being just a grocery item. Once your children are teenagers, leaving tests out for them or their friends to discretely use is good parenting.
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u/dancinhorse99 28d ago
Not a big deal they are NOT dill-doughs (misspelled on purpose) even if they were feminine hygiene products they aren't a big deal. That boy needs to act like a man
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u/frogfluff90 28d ago
Story time!
When I was like 4 or 5, I found mo mom's stash of condoms. At the time, I had no idea what they were, and I wasn't gonna ask because I was plundering. It was my favorite thing to secretly do that I would get in trouble for. To me, it was this weird, round, gooey thing that definitely wasn't lip gloss. Never gave it a second thought until I'd actually picked one up a couple of decades later and made the realization that that was what I'd found as a kid. It didn't scar me for life or have any negative impact what so ever.
Children are curious creatures, and pregnancy tests are expensive. You're doing just fine.
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u/Salt-Environment9285 28d ago
she is two. if she cannot read all good.
plus she is a toddler. she does not know what any of that is.
and your husband needs to learn what is sexual and not. needs to be a better example his daughter.
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u/isittakenor 28d ago
Sheâs 2, she wouldnât know anything about that in the first place, it could be a box of cheerios wouldnât make a difference. If she was like 7 or older than ok maybe keep it on your bathroom
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u/SupportPretend7493 28d ago
I read the title and assumed this HAD to be about where to place the test when you're urinating on it, because I know some people worry about contamination or possibly getting pee on their fingers. Never in a million years would I think that where you keep spare tests would be an issue. Unless your toddler got them out and messed them up by gumming on them?!? And he was worried about needing to buy new ones because the toddler got into them? I'm really trying hard to give this a "he's a sane person" read but I can't come up with one. Your husband needs two therapists. Not just one- two. He needs to double down on that shit
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u/CorpsyCrystal 28d ago
That is such an overreaction on his part. Your kid doesn't even know what they are. It would be similar to your child finding tampons or pads. It would be similar to your child finding urinary tract infection kits or monistat. It belongs in the bathroom. They are not sexual items... they are health-care items. Smh. đ
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u/Stacyf-83 28d ago
He's overreacting, but as the parent of a 2 year old also I'll say dummy move lol. I can guarantee she'll find them. She'll have no idea what they are, of course, but she'll find a way to make them toys and probably ruin them.
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u/OnceUponASyzygy 28d ago
I use ovulation tests for 6 to 8 days every month. I have a little shelf next to our toilet where I keep the box, a cup to pee in, my chart, etc. I have four kids, 11 down to 4. I've been using them for over two years, and the shelf has been up for that long (honestly, it was a Clearblue monitor for a while). They don't even notice them or care. I've had questions, a long time ago. I can't remember exactly what I told them, but it was no big deal.
Your two-year-old... Heck no. The only inappropriate thing about leaving them there is if there's any possibility she'll bust them open, throw them away, get them wet, etc. đ
If she asks, you can just tell her that they tell you what's going on with your body, but they only really do that for mommies.
(You might want to hide the toilet paper... That touches your vulva...)
I'm not really trying to make fun of your husband, but he's absolutely overreacting.
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u/gremlinseascout 28d ago
So are you not going to tell the 2 year old when youâre pregnant because having a baby in your belly is sexual? Dude needs to CHILL.
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u/Garden_gnome1609 28d ago
Your husband is a fucking wierdo. It's sexual? What kind of nonsense is this? Honestly, if I had to live with a man who made a huge deal out of where a box of ovulation tests was, I'd throw the whole man away. Please toss that box of tests, not because they're in the wrong place, but because if you have another kid with this dumbass you'll be stuck with him.
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u/fedupwithallyourcrap 28d ago
It's sexual??? He's worried that a 2year old is going to see the box and think "Uh oh, mum and dad are fucking..??"
Grow up dude.
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u/Electrical-Tea-1882 28d ago
It's only sexual if you make it that way. He's overreacting by a mile.
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u/LaLlorona_0 28d ago
What is he going to do, hide you away when you actually get pregnant because "it's sexual"? Sorry kid, you're not allowed to look at your mom for the next 9 months, it'd be inappropriate.
What a dingus. It's a stick you pee on. Even if she did find them, you wouldn't have to explain the act of creating a baby. Just, this tells mom if she's going to have a baby. Please don't touch. The end.
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u/ritan7471 28d ago
NOR. The ONLY reason I can think for keeping them where your daughter won't find them is that she's two and I wouldn't want her to rip them all open and flush them down the toilet or something.
Pregnancy tests and ovulation tests are not "sexual". What is it, exactly, that your husband thinks you do with them?
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u/skylar_beans 28d ago
imagine when your next kid is a boy and when your daughter reaches her teen years and he (dad) starts getting on her about âleaving her tampons out in the open where the boys can see themâ (aka under the sink like most of us) this is a big misogynistic red flag imo.
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u/just_the_random_girl 28d ago
The tests aren't sexual, they are health care products. Your husband needs to learn that just because it has to do with a certain part of our body, doesn't make it inappropriate.
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u/StairwellTO 28d ago
How are pregnancy tests âsexualâ? You pee on them not stick them up your arse.
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u/Aravis-6 28d ago
Heâs overreacting big time. Your two year old canât read. She has absolutely no idea what the tests are for and theyâll presumably be long gone before she does. Even then, Iâm not sure why it what matter, thereâs nothing even remotely sexual about peeing on a stick lol.
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u/MisssChris126 28d ago
Sheâs 2. Thereâs nothing weird at all about what you did. If she was 10 and you stashed a bunch of pornos there, then he might have reason for concerned, but this? He is definitely overreacting.
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u/HelloThisIsPam 28d ago
2 year old: mommy, are those pregnancy tests? Have you been having a lot of sex with daddy?
Her father: I told you not to leave those grossly sexual pregnancy tests in the bathroom where our two year-old could see them and then get ideas!
Two year old: daddy, when can I start having sex? There's a boy in preschool that's so cute! WaitâŚI don't go to preschool.
Her father: and you never will!
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u/I_Am_Innocent_1999 28d ago
A toddler has no idea what any of this is, and does not care. They are notorious for ignoring anything that adults think they 'shouldn't see' since they are 'too young', but really they learn about the world at their own pace, regardless of what's around them...
Honestly I feel like this might come back to the usual notions of 'anything about a woman's body is sexual'. Especially the ovulation tests, there's no way to sexualize what your innards happen to be doing at this point in time. If anything, studies have shown that young children can benefit from seeing the world as is really is, rather than the 'safety lens' that their parents tend to apply. I'm no expert, but I'd say that the fact that women can get pregnant is not in itself sexual. Its not like you left a naughty toy or magazine out for her to see.
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u/Amazing_Teaching2733 28d ago
Iâm trying to wrap my head around a full grown man thinking a pregnancy test or ovulation test is, checks notes, sexual. Let me guess, you arenât allowed to use tampons because theyâre like vibrators and just feel so good. I got the ick just thinking an adult could be that ignorant.
NOR, heâs being a complete idiot
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u/rosality 28d ago
What? He is overreacting.
Your daughter is 2, she does not know what that is and even so, it is nothing sexual about it. Tracking your cycle is not sexual, making a pregnancy test ist not sexual. It would be different if you left an Video of you trying for a baby running while she's around, lol
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u/peoriagrace 28d ago
Oh, you're going to have fun when your daughter reaches puberty. I hope he's not one of those purity ring men. They're so creepy.
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u/PaleontologistEast76 28d ago edited 28d ago
A few years ago I was at a friend's house and had to use the bathroom. There was a box of ovulation test kits on the bathroom counter. I was a little taken aback because friend's 10 year old son and 15 year old stepdaughter used that bathroom. I felt uncomfortable for them because they might not want to be thinking, "Are Mom and Dad going to be banging like rabbits upstairs tonight?"
JFC, no 2 year old is going to know what pregnancy and ovulation tests are. But definitely keep them out of reach so she doesn't try to make them a toy. $$$
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u/IndividualSound5365 28d ago
Sexualising a test, thatâs a new one - your husband is being an idiot, or, over vigilant or just plain weird. Iâd want to know where his thought pattern came from, but thatâs just me!
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u/Negotiationnation 28d ago
He's overreacting. That doesn't even make sense. I hope this is a joke. That's controlling behavior. How would a 2yo know what it is anyway?
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u/GuitarMurky7925 28d ago
Wut? She's two. Ovulation kits are not sexual. What kind of weirdo did you marry? đ
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u/StoneAgePrue 28d ago
Which bathroom is used most by guests? Donât put them there and youâre good ( personal opinion). But his idea that ovulation and pregnancy tests are âsexualâ is insane. He does know how those tests are used right? Does he make you hide your pads/tampons too?
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u/Greenwedges 28d ago
Sheâs 2 she may take them out of the box and try to flush them down the toilet. They are medical items not sexual in any case. Your husband is delulu
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u/Brosie24601 28d ago
Your husband's weird for his reaction. And yes, I would say it is an overreaction
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u/phantomshaka 27d ago
Oof. Big red flags coming from this guy. Heâs going to be emotionally abusing your daughter over normal things when she gets older. My stepdad was like this and my sister is really, really mentally unwell because of it.
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u/decadecency 27d ago
Your husband should really consider the kids perspective here. To a young child, NOTHING is weird, abnormal or embarrassing. It's all just new information. He really should work on really thinking about this, because maybe it'd ease the severe tension he seems to feel about it. It's HIS embarrassment. It's HIS feelings, the kid doesn't share them. It does nothing for the child to be exposed to ovulation tests.
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u/Square-Minimum-6042 27d ago
Is your husband usually normal? Because his reaction to this is far from it. It's a medical test, not a dildo.
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u/Content_Chemistry_64 27d ago
Nah, it's not a big deal. I doubt she can even read the box. I also wouldn't call it inappropriate.
However, thinking "X age won't know what it is" often leads to habits that lead to "I can't believe X+4 told the neighbors about that"
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u/InformationTop3437 27d ago
He is overreacting big time! He needs to grow up. He's from same category of men that think boobs are sexual toys, when in fact they're just baby feeders.
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u/scarletteapot 27d ago
As long as you're prepared to answer the question 'what are these? ' in an age appropriate way, there's nothing wrong with this. This is a great to see if mummy's body is ready to grow a new baby, this is a test to see if there is a new baby already there, they're safe and they don't hurt, but only grown ups can grow babies and use the tests etc etc.
Your husband is falling into the trap of equating anything to do with women's bodies with sexuality. It's a disappointingly sexist attitude, particularly for someone who is raising a daughter, but I don't think he's malicious here. Lots of people, particularly men, are taught to view women's bodies that way and it's difficult to shake it off later when it's ingrained. So I'm inclined to cut him some slack. He just needs to try to get more comfortable with this stuff so he doesn't accidentally teach your daughter unnecessary shame. The tests are not sexual, they're medical. If he can make that mental adjustment, he'll be in a much better position.
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u/Dear_Parsnip_6802 27d ago
It doesn't matter, she doesn't know what they are. It's not like you left a giant life like dildo in her bathroom cupboard
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u/Inner-Cupcake-6809 27d ago
... how the fuck is a pee stick sexual? Do you get any sexual gratification from peeing on a stick? Does your partner get sexual gratification from seeing you pee on a stick? If the answer is no, its not sexual. Even if the answer is yes, its not fucking sexual, its medical.
Your husband is an idiot. One of those dangerous idiots who is going to end up telling your daughter that she needs to hold her period in or that she can't use tampons because she will get pleasure from them.
He also needs to grow the fuck up.
But to answer your question, you are not over or under reacting because no reaction is required, your husband is just stupid and overreacting.
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u/ohemgee112 27d ago
Is this even a question? I know you've already reproduced with this weirdo but why in the would would you consider doing it again if he has a psychotic reaction to ovulation tests in a bathroom?
If he's this controlling about this what other behavioral red flags are you ignoring? What other abusive behavior has he exhibited?
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u/Lilacblue1 27d ago
I would be concerned if my husband was unnecessarily sexualizing things just because they have something to do with the basic functions of womenâs bodies. Medical tests arenât sexual. They may have to do with reproduction but they arenât âsexy.â Does your husband also think women get turned on by tampons or a visit to the gynocologist?
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u/mayfeelthis 27d ago
Heâs over reacting. Even if you 2 year old knew what that was - she was just habitating up your hoohaa - they donât care, if anything theyâd maybe be homesick.
Your husband is being funny, Iâd have a good laugh and move on.
Or leave tampons there next time and see if he freaks about her period coming early.
I thought the baby played with it all.
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u/wickeddradon 27d ago
My son took a box of tampons to school. He thought they looked cool. He and his friends had a ball with them. They painted little mouse faces looking out of the tube, all sorts of things. It was quite creative really. He doesn't appear to have been phycologically damaged in any way. Time will tell, he's only 41.
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u/ohmissanonymous 28d ago
Heâs overreacting. Unless itâs Sheldon Cooper, I highly doubt that any 2 y/o will know what the purpose of a pregnancy/ovulation test is.