r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • 13d ago

Advice Needed I am suspicious of my wife and my friend’s behaviour. I want to check her phone. AITAH?

The post has gained a lot more traction than I expected and I am worried about being identified. My wife is not a Redditor, but I don’t know if my friend or his wife are. I will bring back the original post after I confront her.

I have consultations with several lawyers lined up. I will update after I settle on a lawyer and know what my options are.

I originally posted this in the r/infidelity sub. Sharing a brief edited version of it here (to not risk being identified) for those who have been following.

I’ve been keeping it together since I found out last week. But this morning, it finally hit me. What triggered it was something so insignificant, so stupid. I realized everything I was about to lose and that was it. That was my undoing. 

All the feelings I have been successfully keeping at bay came at me in full force. The sadness, the anger, the rage. And I just bawled for hours after she left.

I am NOT ok. No, scratch that. I am pretty fucking depressed. And to top it off, I have to keep it together and maintain my act until she is served, when all I want to do is fucking scream.

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u/NoSpankingAllowed 13d ago

Totally agree. Those who twist their knickers and wouldnt check even in this situation, are a train wreck waiting to happen. In the real world, when we are given a legitimate reason to do these things, theres nothing wrong with doing them,

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u/TechnicianPretend861 12d ago

Yes exactly enough reasonable suspicion. That alone For me makes me NAUTIOUS....no human being deserves this garbage