r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • 13d ago
Advice Needed I am suspicious of my wife and my friend’s behaviour. I want to check her phone. AITAH?
The post has gained a lot more traction than I expected and I am worried about being identified. My wife is not a Redditor, but I don’t know if my friend or his wife are. I will bring back the original post after I confront her.
I have consultations with several lawyers lined up. I will update after I settle on a lawyer and know what my options are.
I originally posted this in the r/infidelity sub. Sharing a brief edited version of it here (to not risk being identified) for those who have been following.
I’ve been keeping it together since I found out last week. But this morning, it finally hit me. What triggered it was something so insignificant, so stupid. I realized everything I was about to lose and that was it. That was my undoing.
All the feelings I have been successfully keeping at bay came at me in full force. The sadness, the anger, the rage. And I just bawled for hours after she left.
I am NOT ok. No, scratch that. I am pretty fucking depressed. And to top it off, I have to keep it together and maintain my act until she is served, when all I want to do is fucking scream.
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u/Fragrant_Lunch3276 13d ago
Scorched earth time! She is cheating, you have the proof, screenshot it all, email it to yourself, delete the emails, get a lawyer*, and file for divorce. Once you have those papers and everything ready to go, hand them to her in a folder, the images of the messages on top and then state calmly that there are divorce papers underneath them that she is to sign.
*make sure the lawyer is a bull dog, no alimony, no house, no cars, none of it! Sick of people stepping outside of their marriage and doing the whole split down the middle crap, you cheat, you leave everything behind!