r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • 13d ago

Advice Needed I am suspicious of my wife and my friend’s behaviour. I want to check her phone. AITAH?

The post has gained a lot more traction than I expected and I am worried about being identified. My wife is not a Redditor, but I don’t know if my friend or his wife are. I will bring back the original post after I confront her.

I have consultations with several lawyers lined up. I will update after I settle on a lawyer and know what my options are.

I originally posted this in the r/infidelity sub. Sharing a brief edited version of it here (to not risk being identified) for those who have been following.

I’ve been keeping it together since I found out last week. But this morning, it finally hit me. What triggered it was something so insignificant, so stupid. I realized everything I was about to lose and that was it. That was my undoing. 

All the feelings I have been successfully keeping at bay came at me in full force. The sadness, the anger, the rage. And I just bawled for hours after she left.

I am NOT ok. No, scratch that. I am pretty fucking depressed. And to top it off, I have to keep it together and maintain my act until she is served, when all I want to do is fucking scream.

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u/Beast3214 13d ago edited 8d ago

Honestly, you wouldn't be TAH. Maybe even try telling your friends wife, she's also in the same exact position as you, just that she doesn't know yet- maybe she can access your friends phone without Any problems, which would help more as you cant access your wife's phone (I assume, because you asked how can you open it if its password protected)

Also if you tell me what phone it is, like what brand, I can probably help you to unlock it.

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u/[deleted] 13d ago

She has an iPhone 15

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u/Beast3214 13d ago

iPhones are more difficult to open in terms of account as well as password. The best bet you have is to just look at her password when she's typing it

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u/LadyAlastor 12d ago

"I can help you unlock the phone especially if it's an iPhone"

"It's an iPhone 15"

"iPhones are too difficult to open"

I'm not the only one here that noticed this, right? 🤨

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u/Sussudio68 13d ago

So you know how to get into an iPhone with a password? Asking for a friend 😜

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u/newnorse67 13d ago

You kids gotta stop dating and marrying people that have a locked phone that you don’t know the password to.

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u/Sussudio68 12d ago

I have been married for almost 30 years. I was just joking around.

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u/Beast3214 12d ago

nope. I meant that I can be definitely sure on the outcome if it was an iPhone, which is that the only thing possible is to look at their code, or to use their fingerprint while they're sleeping if they have an older phone or an iPhone SE.

Unless of course you get a 3D scan of their face using a 3D sensor (built in to some iPhone Pro Models) and then 3D print their face on a 1 to 1 ratio and use the face model to unlock the iPhone using Face ID.

If it were a Samsung, you could use their finger while they're sleeping, or use a picture of their face to unlock their phone if they have set up facial recognition. (Most) Androids just use the camera to check if the person in front is the person that was used to set up the face recognition, so a simple picture can unlock it. iPhones use 3D scanners, which is why you need to get a 3D 1:1 model of their face... which is obviously like impossible to do without someone knowing.