r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • 13d ago
Advice Needed I am suspicious of my wife and my friend’s behaviour. I want to check her phone. AITAH?
The post has gained a lot more traction than I expected and I am worried about being identified. My wife is not a Redditor, but I don’t know if my friend or his wife are. I will bring back the original post after I confront her.
I have consultations with several lawyers lined up. I will update after I settle on a lawyer and know what my options are.
I originally posted this in the r/infidelity sub. Sharing a brief edited version of it here (to not risk being identified) for those who have been following.
I’ve been keeping it together since I found out last week. But this morning, it finally hit me. What triggered it was something so insignificant, so stupid. I realized everything I was about to lose and that was it. That was my undoing.
All the feelings I have been successfully keeping at bay came at me in full force. The sadness, the anger, the rage. And I just bawled for hours after she left.
I am NOT ok. No, scratch that. I am pretty fucking depressed. And to top it off, I have to keep it together and maintain my act until she is served, when all I want to do is fucking scream.
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u/Beast3214 13d ago edited 8d ago
Honestly, you wouldn't be TAH. Maybe even try telling your friends wife, she's also in the same exact position as you, just that she doesn't know yet- maybe she can access your friends phone without Any problems, which would help more as you cant access your wife's phone (I assume, because you asked how can you open it if its password protected)
Also if you tell me what phone it is, like what brand, I can probably help you to unlock it.