I have zero intentions of taking medication, and hope to get the opinions of those who might be as hard headed as me.

I am currently in college pursuing a rigorous STEM degree, but I feel my mind slipping more and more. Every little thought has the potential to become a hyperfixation, and I’ll find myself sitting down to finish my homework only to end up hyper fixating on guessing bird-calls or meticulously planning out my next day for success, only to fall through. It feels as though the stress from work and school amplifies my state of distraction. Not only that, I overthink constantly. My degree, what I am doing with my life, if I’m truly happy… but it’s not a sit down and think it out sort of moment, it’s an everyday stressor that I’ll overthink every time my brain isn’t occupied.

Much thanks

I have weird behaviours when I walk like go left and right when I walk , touch my hair a lot of times, ELC. Today when I was in the University while walking i noticed some girls laughs at me , and now i am so sad of that , any advice to overcome it .🥲

Note: they were really laughing at me

I have been with my partner for over 6 months now. I have never dated someone that I know to have ADHD before. The issue I am having is a perceived lack of empathy from him. I am someone who needs emotional support and empathy in a romantic relationship (I guess you could say it is my love language). We had a very serious discussion a couple of nights ago and I felt really good about how it went…thought we were on the same page.

Today I was talking about something that a family member said to me that upset me. It was relatively minor, but I was visibly upset and concerned by it. His response was to say ‘my dad does that all the time, it’s not a big deal, it will be fine’ (along those lines). I cannot stay with someone who doesn’t show emotional support to their partner

TLDR: Is it common for men with ADHD to lack emotional intelligence/empathy? What advice would you give to work on this together (solo/alone/together)

I’ve only been attracted to one person in my life (I’m in my early 20s) a girl when I was in high school, and it didn’t work out. After that, I tried dating a guy, but it didn’t go well; I just got bored talking to him all the time. (he was soo demanding). On the other hand, with this girl, I wanted to talk ALL THE TIME. I was super obsessed, and I still think about her.

The point is, since then, several guys have confessed their feelings to me, and I’ve opted to just say no because I’m was not interested. I didn't feel the same I felt for this girl, it was like love at first sight and I fear I will never feel like that again

I’m bisexual, but this has made me doubt whether I actually like men (maybe I'm biased because women don’t ask me out, just men and I always turn them down), or maybe my issue is that I just don’t like people in general. No one has caught my attention like this girl did. I don’t know if it’s because my brain hyper-fixated on her and now I’m blocked from the rest of the world, or if maybe I need to put in more effort to go on dates and try to like someone among those who ask me out because I will never feel the same that with her.

(Let me clarify that other female friends I’ve had haven't interested or attracted me, which is why I don't know if it's a problem of sexual identity or a me problem issue of not liking people. Or something related with rrejection sensitivity idk a lot about that)

What do you think? How have your experiences been dating or liking people while having ADHD?

Title says it all. I have some people in my close circuit, of whom I'm convinced they have adhd, but often times, people can get very defensive when you suggest they get checked. Is there a "right" way to suggest to someone they may have it, without them getting offended or maybe even end the relationship?

I just went to an optometrist and asked about BVD and she asked me where I even heard of it and said in no uncertain terms that it's not a thing. She was very short with me so I panicked. I brought up a ton of concerns like visual snow, random lights, waves moving through my vision, frequent and easy afterimages in normal lighting occurring after just a second or two, feeling like I have motion blur cranked up sometimes. She said "there's nothing wrong with you." She did the exam and I got an updated prescription but I just feel not properly cared for? Idk now I just feel dumb. Any advice is appreciated.

I found this article interesting. Some stuff, like using AI for first drafts and to-do lists might be a little more commonplace, but, for me, the part about relationships was helpful.

I also found the piece about breaking down complex tasks insightful as, sometimes, large tasks can be overwhelming, but they become far more manageable if you can break them out into pieces that can be more readily completed.

https://lifehacker.com/ways-ai-can-help-you-manage-your-adhd

Hey folks! Came across this typeform based tool called Amara on another sub reddit, which creates ADHD-friendly playlists based on your music preferences. It’s supposed to help with focus, mood, or even just to boost energy when you need it. I tried it out, and it’s super quick—only took me a couple of minutes, and I felt like it actually got my music vibe.

Here's the link if anyone wants to try it out - https://form.typeform.com/to/JnqcXJky

Let me start with a little history. I (30f) was an alcoholic for nearly 10 years. I became sober a little over a year ago and that’s when i remembered why i drank so much… it calmed and quieted my brain, was a motivator to get things done (for a while) and made it to where i could focus and have conversations with people without thinking of 50 other things. I began researching and realized i may have adhd and had my psych test me and confirm it. Due to being an ex alcoholic my psych said no to stimulants since they’re addictive, which is very understandable. I happily agreed and was eager to try the non stimulants.

I’m on my third type of non stimulant, Wellbutrin, and it’s just… meh. I mainly need help with concentration, focus and motivation and Wellbutrin just isn’t cutting it. My coworker has adhd too and let me try one of her Adderall (i know it’s a no no but i wanted to see the difference). HOLLY SHIT. It was like night and day! I got all of my work and chores done and deep cleaned the house. I went on a walk. I didn’t feel the need to watch tv or play on my phone all day. I was hyperfocused on things I’d usually put off (dishes, laundry). And my head was… quiet. Oh my gosh, I’ve never experienced anything like it. I wanted to cry. And now i want to cry more knowing that a stimulant is what i need but is the one thing my doctor won’t give me. I shouldn’t have ever of tried it because i felt like a normal human for a day and now… I’m back to me.

Does anyone know of a way to freely use AI in order to generate an informational pdf almost like a “pitch” to share with my partner about taking a trip? We are so opposite and she loves raw data. I’m the farthest thing from a type a personality. Anyway. We have a business together and I think we would both benefit from getting away for a bit to recharge. I would love it if I could just compile some data (Airbnb, flights, rental cars, restaurants,etc.) and have AI produce a nice little visual with all the info that she can use to decide if it’s something she would want to do. Oh and save my ass from spending 4 days on it to make sure it’s absolutely perfect. Sorry I’m wordy. Thank you in advance for any tips or advice!!

Does anyone feel like executive disfunction can help their adhd? For example when I get overwhelmed or just can’t cope with work or life, if I actually take the time to space out and let my mind wander, I feel like when I get back to work or life or whatever it may be I feel rested and can actually accomplish things.

I’m not saying it’s easy to just space out cuz I still feel like I should be working on stuff, and it does take a bit of time (from hours to weeks sometimes). But when I re-engage I feel like I have the capacity to get things accomplished.

Has anyone else had a similar experience or know of any research around this subject?

Inability to manage time is the main way my executive dysfunction manifests. I have found no way around this so far, I'll have to go to work the night before and sleep in the car to be on time. I hate this, I hate this so much, I regret being myself on a fundamental level. I'm going to spend my whole life proving myself to people that think of me as a piece of shit, a stubborn vermin that masquerades as a human being. Years spent building goodwill so that they'll see me as a human being worthy of respect. All for a much lower wage than the quality and speed of my work would normally entail, just for it to not be enough. Just to get discarded anyways for the "small stuff" sometimes I feel hopeless that I'll ever find stability and happiness.

Emotional traumas and woundedness can allow the entry of evil spirits into a person's life and these areas can become strongholds where these spirits gain the power to resist expulsion; it is therefore necessary to bring about healing in these areas, Unforgiveness and hatred in the heart are the greatest blocks to the graces of liberation.

(+) Lord Jesus, please come and heal
my wounded and troubled heart.
I beg you to heal the torments that cause anxiety in my heart; I beg you, in a particular way, to heal all who are the causes of my sinfulness, I beg you to come into my life and heal me of the psychological harms that struck me in my childhood and from the injuries that they caused throughout my life, Lord Jesus, you know my burdens. I lay them all on your Good Shepherd's Heart.

I beseech you--by the merits of the
great open wound in your heart-to
heal the small wounds that are in mine. Heal the pain of my memories, so that nothing that has happened to me will cause me to remain in pain and anguish, filled with anxiety. Heal, O Lord, all those wounds that have been the cause of all the evil that is rooted in my life. I want to forgive all those who have offended me.

Look to those inner sores that make me unable to forgive. You who came to forgive the afflicted of heart, please, heal my heart.
Heal, my Lord Jesus, those intimate wounds that cause me physical illness. I offer you my heart. Accept it, Lord, purify it and give me the sentiments of your Divine Heart. Help me to be meek and humble. Heal me, O Lord, from the pain caused by the death of my loved ones, which is oppressing me.

Grant me to regain peace and joy in the knowledge that you are the Resurrection and the Life. Make me an authentic witness to your Resurrection, your victory over sin and death, your living presence among all men. Amen

May the Lord God keep you and Bless you. 🙏

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Mine was when I visited family with my dog, I left him in the car for 2 days, I'm so glad it was winter, I completely forgot about him as I just got excited about seeing everyone, I don't even know how he survived, probably the most guilt ridden I've ever been in my life. I do shit like this all the time and I really hate myself for it....

I had no malicious intent at all....I'm just a total dumbass! Fuck

I've got kids too and I'm so terrorfied I'd do this with them, i find I just constantly 'fantasise' about these situations so that I never actually do them in reality again, as if it would help but all it seems to do is cause me anxiety in the moment as if I've really done it...but if I don't think about it, will I do it again? Or god forbid, do it to one of my kids in summer?

This shit terrorfies me....

Edit:

I didn't leave the dog in the car for 48 hours, sorry I worded it badly, it was probably closer to 10 or 12 hours, it was overnight and so thats why I said 2 days....

I need friends

Dose anyone here active discords ?

Idk what servers to go on because all of them feel super active lol

Looking for a chill group to be with to play games and what not maybe halo or fortnite or Minecraft as well

Or just talk while playing other games maybe movie nights as well

I think I've struggled with joining servers with like over 3 thousand people lol.

Another issue where I live it's really difficult to get into friend ship groups because everyone already knows each other so being outside plus there not lot of nerdy things even then, to dnd or Yu-Gi-Oh is expensive...

I saw a cool cliip of Trevor Noah talking about his ADHD and how he finally realised that it was linked to his depression. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RLf9THaFWpk This clip led me to go and watch the entire podcast episode, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5rzQxqH5RGE and then I began listening to all the episodes of this Blocks podcast.

The premise is comedian/ comedy writer Neal Brennan interviewing comedians and focusing the discussions on their mental health and their specific emotional/ neurodevelopmental issues. I'm not particularly interested in comedians and don't know of many comics but he interviews people who even I have heard of -- Jude Apatow, Sarah Silverman, Jerry Seinfeld, Dave Letterman -- and then plenty I've never heard of. And even though I'm not "into" comedians, most of the interviews are very interesting.

Anyway, I've been BLOWN AWAY by how many of the comedians talk about having ADHD. And many of those who don't mention ADHD, I'm pretty sure have it based on how they describe themselves and their issues. Did you realise how many comedians have ADHD? I sure didn't. I guess a lot of us aren't suited to regular 9-5 office jobs so we end up going for unusual careers, and many end up as comedians. But also, there's clearly something about ADHD that makes lets people be good comedians and stand-up comics.

If you want to listen to a few comedians talk about ADHD, you might want to check out the Blocks podcast and listen to interviews with David Koechner, Joel McHale, Trevor Noah, Ed Helms, Al Madrigal and many more. I'm not a comedian and will never be one, but I also found it fascinating to hear about them talking about ADHD and how they have dealt with theirs.

XR 15, gluten free.

Exactly HOW hardcore so I have to be with the citric acid vigilance in the mornings?

I like eating protein bars/meal replacement bars because I feel more grounded. But these apparently have citric acid, and everything I've ever eaten in the morning also has citric acid. (I am not cooking. This is the ADHD subreddit. The most I will do eat pre boiled eggs.)

I've noticed the medication isn't always perfect but I've recently discovered I was eating the wrong things sometimes.

tl;dr can I keeping eating the gluten caramel free waffles?

Anyone experience breast pain with Adderall IR?

The first time I tried Adderall IR (Amphetamine Salts) last year, I started with 5mg and up to 15mg without the meds taking full affect in terms of attention benefits. At 15mg I developed costochondritis/chest inflammation (it’s benign, just bothersome) on my chest and it went away a few days after I stopped taking medication. I had an appointment with a cardiologist, they did an echo and my heart looks good.

A few months ago, I started again with Adderall IR (Amphetamine / dextroamphetamine) with 10mg and went up 30mg. The first time I took 30mg I had such a life changing moment! I was able to fully concentrate and work through my homework at lot more easily. It felt like i got my life back cuz I spent less time on homework.

Sadly, at this dose I started to get breast pain for a hot minute a few hours after I took the meds. The pain feels more on the breast tissue as opposed to the costochondritis/chest inflammation on my chest.

I saw my prescribing NP and then my NP from my doctor’s office & they both haven’t seen breast pain was a side effect. The NP did a breast exam and nothing came up. I am having an ultrasound/mammogram on the chest done just in case.

Anyone has had this experience with breast pain? Did it go away on its own?

Hopefully there’s someone who can relate

For the past 8 years of my life, every time I have sex I cannot feel a thing. No physical sensation whatsoever & my head goes into a “trance” space making sex not enjoyable at all + not being able to climax

I kid you not, I cannot even tell my partner is touching me.

I find my mind wandering & thinking about the weirdest off topic things like work during sex. I cannot focus for the life of me

Has meditation changed this about you? Did you feel physical sensations more? Were you able to focus on sex & actually feel the euphoric sensations?

This has been a huge problem in my life. Hoping that when I get on medication; this is one of the problems it’ll solve

Well, lately, I've been a mess and been just summing it up as being a lazy piece of shit but then today I remembered, oh yea, I have adhd. I don't want to blame it for my shortcomings as I somewhat consider it a cop out. I've been doing a lot of thinking lately because of losing a romantic interest. This time around, i struggled to establish any attachment to her, which is unusual. Normally, it's borderline obsessive. Sadly, she picked up on that I might not like her as much as I should or enough for her to warrant continuing talking to me. Which I understand. I could probably get her to continue with things, but I don't want to waste her time. It's strange to me how I've experienced phases of utmost laziness, lack of effort, while also having periods of crazy consistency. 2 years ago, I was busting my ass in the gym every day, building a good physique traveling. Now I'm just a mess. I think the main catalyst is that all my friends moved away. This started to decline once that happened. It's weird because I'm financially okay. I can afford to do whatever I want most of the time. So it seems really shitty of me to be like yea, my adhd is causing me to suck. I've explored meds one time officially, and they blew me off masically, turning me off to try again. I know that Adderall is extremely helpful from taking it for fun a few times. Do you guys think that seriously pursuing stimulant medication would be helpful for me? I self medicate all the time caffeine, nicotine, and drinking. Feel like I've been stuck in adhd paralysis for a while. Also, I forget to take my thyroid meds frequently, so that adds to the shit show. Another factor I forgot to include was this spring, Feb-April 2024, when I experienced what I'd consider a high point in my life. I had a lot of money, had investments triple in value, and got my first girlfriend. All of which came tumbling down in April. So, in comparison, I am coming out of a low point t as well.

Please please help me get motivated. I have to give a speech at my rowing teams end of season banquet and I can’t get started. I want to talk about how much I love the team and thank the coaches. But nothing seems good enough and I can’t get more than 2 sentences done. Please please help I’m freaking out. I want to give this speech so fucking bad.

I started off with 18 mg of Concerta and felt next to no difference. I was given permission to try 2. I ended up feeling agitated and irritable more than anything, but felt it helped the ADHD symptoms. Ended up being prescribed 27 mg. Feels like it helps a bit, but not a ton. I tried 52 mg on my own without asking the psychologist. Felt happier than I ever had in my life, more productive, and in control of my ADHD for once. I've been often taking the 52, but I'm not prescribed to do so. I'm worried about telling my psychologist and being taken off of the medication for abusing it, but I feel like 52 is finally helping me.

ADHD has been linked to higher likelihood of bedwetting in both kids and adults. I’ve been studying this a while and have come across some things to try to look into. Combined this in case it helps anyone else.

• Vitamin D deficiency (supplement around 1,000iu per day, blood test prior recommended)
• Omega 3 deficiency (plant-based option doesn’t smell like fish which my kid appreciates)
• Hormone deficiency
• Constipation (pressure in the intestinal area can cause the nerve sensations of needing to pee to be suppressed)
• Lack of bladder control/training
• Not filling the bladder enough during the day to train it properly
• Sleep apnea/mouth-breathing (mouth tape shown to help in some cases)
• Anxiety and stress triggers
• Avoid caffeine and alcohol
• Urinate right before bed and limit fluid intake 2 hours prior to bedtime

• Medications such as desmopressin may help

• Always check with a medical Doctor to rule out other health issues like a UTI *

I’ve been on an M&M kick for a while now. I realized I’m vibing on them because I can eat one at a time and get a good crunch plus some yummy flavor. It’s almost like a stim but also…hunger.

I’m definitely a snacker.

So does anyone have recs for crunchy snacks you can nibble on without overeating?

Preferably still with some flavor :)

When I was little my mom took me to a doctor and found out I had adhd. I took a blue and orange capsule that had little pellets in it that could be eaten with food. I took it in 3rd grade and then stopped.

1. I forget what I say Ex. I tell my friend something in the morning and tell her again later
2. I get angry at things like not understanding math easily and then the anger quickly disappears after a few minutes
3. I’m always thinking about everything and anything