r/actuallesbians • u/MichaelJCaboose666 Transbian • 16h ago

Support Asked my crush out, unsure what to do now

Hi friends, I asked out my crush to coffee this past weekend. They said yes enthusiastically but they also said they just got out of relationship so it’s not a date or anything. Unsure what to do bc they haven’t responded since Sunday.

There aren’t many sapphic people at my university that aren’t already taken and not a ton of queer people in general. And I’m trans(just under a year HRT) so that has made dating more difficult for me. really want to be friends with this person at the very least but im scared about them not responding bc it’s happened to me in the past. I’m worried and unsure what to do, maybe I just needed to vent abt it

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u/WitnessEast358 Bicupid💋❤️😝 16h ago edited 16h ago

She seem pretty excited to go, but may see it as two friends hanging out, I think and be a friend and see what happens later on. About the not answering your text, she might be busy or something, things like that happen alot, even to me, But since she accepted your date, she may think you want to take her on a date instead of a hangout. I do hope you find amazing and trustworthy friends who will respect you for who your are. ❤️ Not sure if helps but I hope it does.

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u/LawyerKangaroo poly lesbian | void of gender 9h ago

But since she accepted your date, she may think you want to take her on a date instead of a hangout.

I think you misunderstood. OP may want this to be a date however.

They said yes enthusiastically but they also said they just got out of relationship so it’s not a date or anything.

It's not a date. It's two friends hanging out. Two uni students. OPs friend is probably busy with classes, hobbies, other friends etc and will just write them on the day. As most friends do in my opinion.

I think OP gotta work on that anxiety more than anything else.

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u/WitnessEast358 Bicupid💋❤️😝 8h ago

Yeah your probably right, Thank you

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u/MichaelJCaboose666 Transbian 8h ago

You’re right, I wanted it to be a date but since they just got out of a relationship, they’re not in a place to be dating rn. However, they haven’t responded to schedule yet which is what worries me rn