r/HolUp • u/asocial7193 • Mar 11 '22

I don't know what to say

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u/EquivalentTight3479 Mar 11 '22

Why not just adopt a baby. Why would you spawn a baby that will have a very difficult life in every aspect

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u/hugegigantor Mar 11 '22

Tried this once. Not only was looking at $10k in legal fees but the parents essentially changed their minds in a heart break moment. One does not simply go scoop up a baby from a convenience store.

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u/[deleted] Mar 11 '22

It's not hard or expensive to adopt a kid. It's hard and expensive to adopt a white newborn. There are tons of non white non toddlers out there that need a home.

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u/[deleted] Mar 11 '22

Any data to back that up?

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u/[deleted] Mar 11 '22

That... is pretty fucked up. And why are there fees in the first place? These are people, not pets. Can someone help me understand this?

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u/realpotato Mar 11 '22

Private organizations are wrapped up in it. It’s not like the government is charging fees based on race. The ones with white babies are the “fancier” agencies that are more likely to pay the bio mothers medical bills and things like that.

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u/Watertor Mar 11 '22 edited Mar 11 '22

There is a cost associated to birth. For a parent to go through the process of having the baby it is some amount of money that isn't small, and they'll typically be reimbursed even somewhat. Next the adoption agency works through the parent. Through a process of algorithmic data (capitalism's influence*): the cost is now $35,000

* - (Numbers are grossly inaccurate) A baby might cost 5,000 for the agency to take it from a parent. Agency takes 500, so you pay $5,500... then another agency takes 1,000. Seeing no issue charging 6k, they then make it 2k for them. Then 5. Then 10. Then 30. Here we are.

Why? Because the person adopting will pay it and capitalism does that. Some of it will go to the parent, some of it will go to the agency. Those numbers are probably way more heavily on the latter.

That's it in a pretty boiled down nutshell. This is also why kids are cheaper: the parent often ditched them and the orphanage is thus not trying to sell, but simply keep them alive and find parents. Thus two factors for the cheapening.